Properly Care For Your Children
When it comes to your newborn or children’s health, it is
very important to get to know every inch of their body in
order to make sure they’ll receive proper health care now
and in the future. As adults we’re constantly reminded of
how important it is to get to know our body and to check
for certain things. So really we have to keep this same
attitude with our children until they are able to do so
for him or her self.
When you get to know your baby from their birthday; it
becomes easier to identify changes or symptoms that can
cause problems with your baby or children’s health.
Thankfully though as a child gets older or starts to talk,
they can tell you when they are not feeling up to par.
Arming yourself with this information will help the
Pediatrician with all your children’s health or childhood
health problems.
What is normal for them? Take notes of their behavior patterns,
their play and sleep patterns. What is the difference shown
when ill or when well? How are their bodies developing or does
something appear abnormal. If this is your first experience
with a newborn, arm yourself with such information and be
prepared to give that history at each physician visit and please
keep a log of this in your files and in a fire proof safe.
Well, if you are not a medical professional for children by trade, you can be the eyes and ears for your children and their health care providers! And the absolute best time to start is at their birth. If this is your first, second, or third child, it’s important to learn about each child as an individual because their systems will be different which in turn means that they each will react differently to childhood illnesses.
Always get a copy of any test results or other medical records
before you leave or it could cost you a fortune in time, money
or both later.
Angela Renee is a wife, mother of three and a writer who’s
passionate about helping “Every Day Become A Mothers Day.”
If you are an expectant mother or a new mom, you can visit
her website http://www.worlds-best-mothers-guide.com for information
on children’s health, and other information to assist you with every single aspect of your life as a woman, as a partner, and as a mother.
12 Keys to Successful Parenting
AN OPEN LETTER FROM EVERY CHILD
DEAR MOM, DAD OR GUARDIAN,
I love you, and I know that you want to be the best parent that you can be. I am very sensitive, and I can feel your warmth, your caring, and your heart’s desire to see me happy, healthy and successful in all areas of my life.
I first want to thank you for being my parent; for giving birth to me and providing for my physical needs–food, clothing, and a home. Without you, I wouldn’t be able to survive. Thank you for all the wonderful things you do for me. I am pleased and grateful that you are choosing to be there for me
I understand how difficult parenting can be–I did not arrive with instructions. I know that you always do your best with the information that you have. You basically learned how to parent from your parents, and they did from theirs and so on down through the generations. Unless I learn other ways, I’ll probably teach my children what you share with me.
To make your job easier and to help you and I reach our goals, I want to give you the gift of telling you what I want and need. With healthy guidelines we can both experience joy, fulfillment, success and harmony.
Thank you for your openness and your love.
The following messages come from my heart:
Please…
1. Understand that I am growing up and changing very fast. It must be difficult to keep pace with me, but please try.
2. Listen to me and give me brief, clear answers to my questions. Then I will keep sharing my thoughts and feelings.
3. Reward me for telling the truth. Then I am not frightened into lying.
4. Tell me when you make mistakes and what you learned from them. That helps me accept that I am okay, even when I blunder.
5. Pay attention to me and spend time with me. That helps me believe that I am important and worthwhile.
6. Do the things you want me to do. Then I have a good, positive model.
7. Comfort me when I’m scared, hurt or sad. That will help me feel I’m okay even when I’m not feeling strong or happy.
8. Take responsibility for all your feelings and actions. That will help me not blame others and take responsibility for my life.
9. Be consistent with me. Then I can trust your words and actions.
10. Communicate what you feel hurt or frightened about when you’re angry at me. That will help me feel I’m a good person, and learn how to constructively deal with my feelings.
11. Tell me clearly and specifically what you want. That will help me hear you, and will also know how to communicate my needs in a positive way.
12. Express to me that I’m okay even when my words or behavior may not be. That will help me learn from my mistakes, and have high self-esteem.
Thank you for hearing me. I love you!
(Excerpts from the booklet, e-book, book, “All You Need Is HART” and
Posters “AS I GROW” & “HELP ME GROW”)
©1997, 2006 by Helene Rothschild, MS, MA, MFT, Marriage, Family Therapist, author, speaker and teacher. http://www.helenerothschild.com
Helene Rothschild, MS, MA, MFT, is a Marriage, Family Therapist, intuitive counselor, author, speaker, teacher and workshop facilitator. To empower people, she developed a unique process, HART: Holistic And Rapid Transformation (New Book: “All You Need Is HART! Create love, joy and abundance- Now!”). She offers phone sessions, teleclasses, self-help and inspirational books, e-books, MP3 audios, tapes, cards, posters and independent studies. http://www.helenerothschild.com
Overcoming Secretive Eating
Finally you are alone. No one else is around. Maybe you’ve waited until they are all soundly asleep. You find yourself in the kitchen sneaking food. Sometimes it’s cake, sometimes it’s ice cream. Other times you’re standing in front of the refrigerator eating leftovers without a plate. Once in a while, you plan ahead, stocking up on your favorite goodies on the drive home.
Almost in a trance-like state, you begin eating the foods you don’t want anyone to know you eat… in volumes you don’t want anyone to know you want. You eat quickly, not wanting to get caught. The irony is that you’re not really enjoying the food, you’re not really hungry, and you don’t know why you are doing it. Initially there is a sense of freedom, exhilaration, and relief. But something odd also occurs. When eating becomes secretive, it becomes both more exciting and more difficult to give up. A devastating cycle begins. The lure of sneak eating progresses, but so does the sense of guilt and failure. Of course, this leads to more sneak eating and on it goes. It becomes a overwhelming cycle that generates a life of it’s own.
EMOTIONAL NEEDS
Sneak eating is a metaphor for real needs. These are needs that are typically not addressed. We think we shouldn’t have them. Or we don’t know how to deal with them. It’s usually a time we can be alone, with all our wants and desires. It is a time we don’t have to pretend to be capable, competent, pleasant, likeable, strong, and without needs. It is a time to be entirely self-centered, where you don’t have to take care of the needs of anyone else and can focus completely on yourself.
Sneak eating is about hunger. Hunger that develops because of the deprivation of strict diets, restrictive food plans, and the list of “bad” foods that you “shouldn’t” be eating. Sneak eating is also a substitute for emotional comfort. A way to nurture the unaddressed feelings of shame, guilt, low self-esteem and loneliness. These feelings may be with you most of the day. It is only when the pace slows down, that the emotions begin to emerge. Not knowing how to handle these powerful emotions, eating follows. Eating in isolation can be a way of stuffing down emotions that seem overwhelming. Eating alone can provide down time without the interruption of family, work, or other responsibilities.
THE 10 MOST POWERFUL FEELINGS YOU EAT TO KILL
1. Hurt
2. Guilt
3. Anger
4. Shame
5. Lonely
6. Anxiety
7. Self-hate
8. Disappointment
9. Emptiness
10. Deprivation
These feelings are normal for every human being. We each need to take the time, and learn the skills, to sit with our emotions. Recognize that it is essential to know what is going on within our bodies. Know that you are important enough to take the time to be still and be with who we really are. Every person has wants, needs, and desires. We need time to focus solely on ourselves and satisfy our needs. Many of us were taught that these things were selfish and unimportant. We learned to disconnect and hide, lie and make excuses about our needs. We pretend we don’t need or want pleasure. We substitute food for what we really needed in life. We end up with a love/hate relationship with food. We try to force ourselves not to eat, especially not to sneak eat. And we punish and criticize ourselves for not being able to stop.
Recognize that sneak eating is not about your having shameful desires that cannot be controlled. Instead, sneak eating indicates that you have healthy, natural, human longings that you were not taught how to address.
QUESTIONS
There are a variety of things you can do to help build-up your willpower and let go of the need to sneak eat. Discover what motivates your behavior by asking yourself a few questions as each incident occurs.
* Where are you when you sneak eat?
* What were you thinking about right before you ate it?
* What were you feeling before you began eating?
* What need is this food filling (or stuffing) in your life?
* What else, other than food, would fill the wants and desires that you have?
* What is it that you really need?
Answering these questions and keeping a journal of your answers for future reference will help you understand what prompts your behavior. Your journal entries will serve as a starting place towards noting ideas. These ideas will help you work towards solutions once you are able to more readily recognize your pattern.
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Helping people let go of self-destructive thoughts, emotions, and behaviors has been the life work of Dr. Annette Colby. Her fascination with the power of the mind, emotions, spirituality, and physicality has led her to become a leader in the field of personal growth and consciousness. She is a valued counselor, and an inspiring teacher, as well as an independent writer, mentor, and guide. She is a highly sought-after trainer with a unique ability to inform and inspire individuals to open their hearts, love more openly, and pursue their dreams.
Dr. Annette Colby, RD
Nutrition Therapist & Master Energy Therapist
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